The Importance Of Forgiveness In Marriages


Over the past decades, we have seen how fast the rate of divorced increase not only in the US, but even in most countries where divorce is practiced. We have also seen how divorced ruined thousands if not millions of family all over the world. But how all of these happened?


Before reaching to the point where couples have to make that difficult choice of resorting to divorce, let’s see how couples can avoid getting to this point. So based on different views of married people, what led to this unfortunate event is the inability of the married couples to forgive their erring partners during a major fight, which leads to escalating of initially trivial issue to a full-blown conflict.



If you want a happy and lasting married life: forgive. There’s really no secret strategy to keep one’s marriage intact for a long time other than knowing how to forgive. When conflict arises, fights are part of the game. It’s natural that people fight over so different things, but what separates married couple when it comes to the way they handle their individual problems is how they forgive or are they willing to forgive.


Let’s admit it, it’s not easy to forgive someone who have caused us too much pain, especially due to betrayal and infidelity, which are the most common reasons of divorce these days. But forgiveness is possible regardless of the gravity of the offense one has caused on you. Despite this, many still find it hard to forgive and let bygones be bygones.

Live Happily

If you want a happy life, you need to know how to let go of the negative affects or any type of self-defeating behavior as a result of the offense committed to you by someone. If you want a happy married life, sometime, you need to compromise and every fight doesn’t have to end in filing of divorce.


There are a lot of ways to solve your marital problem other than resorting to divorce. When you choose to live a happy life, everything will follow and you will start to embrace your partner no matter how hard it is to forgive. In countries where divorce is not an option, married couples have different ingenious ways and coping mechanism in addressing their various marital woes without even considering living apart.


Everything Heals


If you think forgiveness is not possible with how terrible your partner has done to you, you are totally wrong. No matter how negative one person has done to his or her wife, forgiveness is always an option. You may never realize it right at the precise moment that you’re feeling that negative emotion, but time will come that you will thank yourself for not giving up on the marriage and giving the two of you a chance and your marriage.


If you find it hard to do, you can actually start distancing yourself from the situation as you reflect on what’s the best way to deal with the situation and on how will you be able to fix everything.


Embracing Age Differences In Marriage



At first, most people, including those unmarried would say that age doesn’t really matter in relationships or in marriages as a whole. However, several studies have shown that it could become an issue once not properly addressed.


Estimates have it that the average age difference among couple, which include dating and married couples is pegged at six years. However, we have seen over the past decades that society has becoming more open to the idea of noticeable age differences among couples. In fact, several high-profile personalities have their individual stories with their partners with huge age difference, which referred to as May-December relationship.

Issue Or Not


The issue whether or not age difference in relationship does matter is entirely subjective, which means it depends entirely on the individuals in the relationship whether they feel comfortable with the kind of relationship they are having. Whether it’s a big issue or not is entirely on the person in the relationship to decide on.


Let’s admit it, we all have our personal opinions about age-gap issues in relationship. Also, we have to admit that no matter how we see it, there are several advantages and disadvantages if we choose to be in that kind of relationship. It’s totally a personal choice, after all, it’s our life. But those who are in a relationship with noticeable age-gap difference, they claim that there are several advantages and disadvantages of being in that kind of relationship.

Learning Experience


Being in this kind of relationship gives you a lot of learning experience where you can get to know not only yourself but the other person as well by sharing your personal experience where you can draw learning from and can be applied to yourself. Since there’s a noticeable difference between you and your partner’s age, it’s totally possible that you can learn from their experience the type that you can only learn that comes with age.


If you’re the much older partner, you can also learn a lot from your younger partner by knowing some of the life lesson that the younger generation can teach you. It’s not totally an awkward situation after all if you just know how to make this rather unconventional relationship a fun one.


You Grow Together


Having a partner who’s much younger or much older than you means you get to know a lot of things from different generation. This also means that you get to experience, through your partner, different cool things from your partner’s generation that no other people even your family and books can teach you.


Love knows no age. If you really love a person, you will love him or her regardless of their age, race, preferences, and uniqueness. It’s just a matter of perspective and knowing that love conquers all regardless of how seemingly odd your relationship to other people. For as long as you continue inspiring each other and supporting each other to become a better person than they already are, that’s pretty much enough.